Bid Day

Dear Potential New Member,

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

Recruitment is over, and can I share something most people don’t talk about? This week you have been through so many emotions and you are probably running on empty. You may be celebrating at the end of what has been the best week of your life but don’t be surprised if today is disappointing, awkward, or if you’re left wondering, “Did I make the right decision?” You are totally normal! You are not alone.

Don’t seek approval from Greek letters because you will always be left wanting. Being part of a sorority has been one of my favorite parts of college but it is definitely not the only part of UT that I love. If I placed my identity solely in my chapter, I would have been crushed many times as friends and events can naturally let me down.

No one and no chapter is perfect, so if today is exactly what you pictured or not at all what you thought, have hope that there is more beyond this day. Just making it through this week is an accomplishment so let go of any anxieties weighing on your heart and rest in the fact that whatever your bid day card says, you are loved, you have value, and you have purpose. 

Sincerely, 

A Panhellenic Woman

Preference Night

Dear Potential New Member,

“Our greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

One thing that makes this week so difficult is the fact that you can’t really determine what will happen. You can’t choose what houses will invite you back, so you don’t really have total control of what house you will end up spending so much time in for the next four years. It is overwhelming. I am sure you have felt the stress about not being in control many times before this, and you will feel it plenty of times during your college experience.

Let go of all the stress strangling your heart and rest in the peace of knowing that your sorority does not define your identity and experiences in college. You are so much more than the letters you wear and when you accept that truth, tonight is a lot less scary and a lot more fun and relaxing. 

Sincerely, 

A Panhellenic Woman

Sisterhood Day

Dear Potential New Member,

Seek peace and pursue it.”

Do you have direction or peace about what house you are leaning towards? How can you know where you are supposed to be? You may be feeling overwhelmed and thinking, “Where do I fit in? Who really wants me? “ Often we lose perspective and then become anxious and confused.

There’s probably a popular rumor floating around your dorm and in your recruitment group that there’s just one house for you and you have to find it. But don’t buy into it. No one house will fulfill all your hopes and dreams for college; no one house will give you the absolutely perfect best friend; no one house will complete you. Any of them have the potential to give you those things, but what’s really important is what you’re willing to put into Greek life.

You might be grieving some of your favorite houses or celebrating what houses you’re visiting tonight. Either way, remember to keep tonight and tomorrow in perspective: no house is perfect but there can be a perfect place for you in any of them. 

Sincerely,

A Panhellenic Woman

Philanthropy Day 2

Dear Potential New Member,

“For what it’s worth…it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it.”

Who are you? That can be a scary question, but it’s such an important question, especially at this stage of life. For the first time, you have control over who you are and how you spend your time. Who do you want to be in college? What will make your heart gallop, what will stir your curiosity?

The people you surround yourself with will help to answer those questions. As you go through recruitment this week, make sure you’re spending time to rest and get to know yourself as you enter this new stage of life. Don’t be afraid to question or wrestle with who you have been in the past. This is a fresh start. 

Sincerely,

A Panhellenic Woman

Philanthropy Day 1

Dear Potential New Member,

“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…it has no value; rather it is one of those things that gives value to survival.” –C.S. Lewis

Why did you decide to join Greek life? Are you seeking to belong to something bigger than yourself? We were created for community, so it’s natural to want to be around people who care about us. Your sorority will provide a place to form lifelong friendships. You may have already started some of those deep relationships with your Recruitment Counselor or girls in your group.

As you learn about the philanthropies of different houses today, think back to your favorite friends in high school. How did they make you feel about yourself? What did they bring out in you? You want to community who will encourage you to be your best self and love you no matter what. 

Sincerely,

A Panhellenic Woman

Open House Day 2

Dear Potential New Member,

“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

This week many beautiful, smart, and outstanding women will surround you. You will probably be tempted to compare yourself to them. Your thoughts will go one of two directions: either you will feel inferior to them or you may feel prideful and that you are better than others. Either way is not based on truth, but circumstance. We must rely on something more consistent than our emotions to base our self-image on.

So what is the truth? While it might sound cheesy, your heart and character matter more than your outward appearance. So stay away from the trap of comparison; instead, fill your heart and mind with the truth about who you are!

Sincerely, 

A Panhellenic Woman

Open House Day 1

Dear Potential New Member,

“Too many people undervalue what they are and overvalue what they’re not.”

As the week gets started, check your emotions. How are you feeling about everything so far? What are you most excited about? What makes you anxious? Spend some time writing down some of your thoughts. Maybe call a friend and process together.

Whatever you might be feeling today, remember this: You are unique, you are beautiful, and you have purpose. Like the above quote says, too many girls focus on what they don’t like about themselves instead of all of their awesome characteristics. As you begin the process of recruitment, remind yourself of the truth of who you are. Be confident in who you are today! 

Sincerely, 

A Panhellenic Woman

Opening Convocation Introduction

Dear Potential New Member, 

Welcome to UT! Hopefully you have had a great summer and now you are beginning a new phase of your life – college!

This upcoming week will be fun and exciting but you might feel a little anxious as well. Our hope is to encourage you as  you participate in recruitment and as you transition to college. Every day this week, we'll post a brief message of encouragement to brighten your day and help put your mind in the right place as you go through all the parties.

These little messages of inspiration are on behalf of Panhellenic women at UT. We hope you have so much fun this week and have a great start to your next four years!

Sincerely,

A Panhellenic Woman